I see the shortcomings in others as reflections of mine, something needing help more than ridicule
I try not to get upset when things go wrong. I used to. But over time, I've come to realize that when things go wrong, it is an opportunity for me to solve a problem. And I love solving problems. The more I do this, the less trying I need to not get upset. Soon it becomes natural. Perversely, I see this a form of the saying "Don't get angry, get even." Because getting even is one solution. Not getting upset is also a form of peace. Where you don't need to get riled over the smallest thing. Now, I'm turning that view outward. Out to the people around me. Where I used to deride, I now choose to encourage. Where I used to vilify, I now choose to help. Positivity is a choice we all can make. First it helps us. Then it'll help us help others.