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I see the shortcomings in others as reflections of mine, something needing help more than ridicule

I try not to get upset when things go wrong. I used to. But over time, I've come to realize that when things go wrong, it is an opportunity for me to solve a problem. And I love solving problems.
The more I do this, the less trying I need to not get upset. Soon it becomes natural. Perversely, I see this a form of the saying "Don't get angry, get even." Because getting even is one solution. Not getting upset is also a form of peace. Where you don't need to get riled over the smallest thing.
Now, I'm turning that view outward. Out to the people around me. Where I used to deride, I now choose to encourage. Where I used to vilify, I now choose to help.
Positivity is a choice we all can make. First it helps us. Then it'll help us help others. 

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